When I was younger some of the other children in school thought I was weird because I didn’t wear pants. I was raised with the belief that women are not to wear clothing pertaining to a man, and that was translated to mean women should not wear pants. Honestly, this difference made me feel like… Read More Building Self-esteem: Everyone is Not Going to Accept You
Honestly speaking, I debated over writing something about Valentine’s Day. I can count on one hand the amount of times I actually celebrated this occasion and enjoyed myself. When I was much younger I always viewed the day as a celebration for couples. I thought you were supposed to have a date who would bring flowers… Read More Valentine’s Day…Bah humbug
Like most words, reflection has several definitions. There are two that stand out to me; A thing that is a consequence of, or arises from something else, or serious thought or consideration. I made a collage of four photos of myself from 2009 to 2016. In all honesty I was amazed to see that I look… Read More Reflection: Looking Into The Windows to My Soul
“…Put your best dress on like a diva should…Walk above it all in your winner shoes.” – “Ten Foot Stilettos” by Chrisette Michele There is nothing like a high heel shoe. To me, they are the epitome of sexy. Slipping on a pair of heels changes my entire mindset – I feel like I can… Read More Five Feet High and Risin’
Confidence is the state of being certain. When one is certain, the subject at hand is known for sure or established beyond doubt. Regardless of what anyone says, confidence can exist in any body – not just the thin ones. There is an expectation from some people that those of us with body fat should be… Read More Fat + Confident = Possible
“One man esteemeth one day above another: another esteemeth every day alike. Let every man be fully persuaded in his own mind.” Romans 14:5 KJV When I was a child, and during a portion of my adulthood, I wondered what people thought of me. I wanted to be accepted and thought of fondly – now… Read More What Do You Think?
Earlier today I read a very interesting post about the word fat. The author identifies herself with the word and she is comfortable with it. After reading it I pondered over my feelings of discontent with that three letter word. Why do I dislike it so much? According to Merriam-Webster, one of the definitions of… Read More I Don’t Like the Word Fat…Am I Not as Pioneering as I Think I am?
“I’ve realized that being annoyed by the positive behavior of others is due to the lack of comfort and happiness within ourselves. Why else would we be bothered?” – B.B. When we are naked we are undisguised, blatant, overt, and possibly vulnerable. Depending on our mental state, being naked can cause some level of discomfort or… Read More Naked and Unafraid
A couple of weeks ago I learned of the passing of a Gospel artist by the name of Thomas Clay. I didn’t know him personally, but I know quite a few people who called him friend. When I learned of his death I had my usual reaction – shock. It truly amazes me how the… Read More Time: The Non-Refillable Commodity
About a year ago I learned that I was the subject of daily conversation amongst my colleagues – or at least my clothes were. I was told a group of people would gather and wait for me to pass by to see what I was wearing. I was described as, “that heavy-set dark-skinned chick that… Read More That Heavy-set Dark-Skinned Chick Can Dress – This Should be a Hashtag
