Although I have been overweight for the majority of my life, I haven’t experienced a lot of mistreatment or slurs to my face about it. I’ve also never felt like I couldn’t or shouldn’t take up space as a fat person. However, a recent event made me think about it. An incident occurred at work… Read More News Flash: I Am An Overweight Black Woman
A little over a year ago, I received a message asking if I give body positivity advice. In all honesty, I don’t consider myself to be an expert or even an influencer—to an extent anyway. I have affected some fashion choices and purchases, but I don’t know if I’ve swayed anyone’s behavior or thoughts about… Read More Body Positivity: Does Personal Preference or “Brutal” Honesty Within a Relationship Cancel Out Love?
A few months ago, I wrote a blog post addressing my plus-size privilege and I received a bit of criticism for it. Although I earnestly believe we are all entitled to our opinions, I was a bit taken back by it. Be that as it may, I’m going to continue to be me unapologetically. So,… Read More Is Self-Love Enough While Traveling When You’re a Big Girl?: Another Lesson In Plus-Size Privilege
In general terms, my answer to the above question is yes. And unfortunately, I believe men get the short end of the stick when it comes to having more meat on the bone and being accepted or deemed attractive. Don’t get me wrong. I think both sexes face struggles and barriers related to personal preferences… Read More Is There a Double Standard in Place When it Comes to Being Fat and Getting Play?
The word “privilege” has been used a lot lately, usually in the context of racial inequality. So, when I read an article recently that speaks about it in relation to the plus-size community, I was a bit baffled. I was perplexed because I hadn’t thought about the possibility of having privilege as a plus-size person.… Read More I Just Recognized My Plus-Size Privilege; Now What Do I Do About it?
An article was sent to me today that left me a bit confused. In most cases, I don’t like using the word confused. Mainly because I know who the author of confusion is—but that is a topic for another day. However, I couldn’t identify a more appropriate word to describe how I felt. In a… Read More Dazed & Confused: Being Called a “BBW” is a Form of Fetishizing?
Earlier today, I watched a video by Aba and Preach on YouTube that touches on a possible challenge within a relationship—weight gain. While I viewed it, a lot of questions popped into my mind as it relates to body-shaming and relationships. In the video, Aba and Preach discuss a Facebook post from a group on… Read More Is Voicing a Physical Personal Preference Within a Relationship an Act of Body-Shaming, or is Expecting Universal Acceptance Unreasonable?
We live in an influential world. Generally speaking, what is considered “cool” and “acceptable” is defined by the masses. And in a lot of instances if someone is found outside of these parameters they are considered strange or unacceptable. Unfortunately, some of us fall victim to the desire for social acceptance. The collective we associate… Read More Plus-Size Women, Is the “Fit Guy” Our Superhero?
The above question entered my mind back in 2017 when I wrote a post for the Curvy Style blog. The aforementioned contribution was about my thoughts surrounding diversity in plus-size modeling. I challenged the push for diversity as a necessity and questioned if it is time to look within for acceptance. I was hesitant about… Read More Is There a Correlation Between Privilege and the Demand for Social-Acceptance in the Plus-Size Community?
A few days ago I had a conversation with one of my friends about a social media post he shared with me. The post was in response to the “don’t rush” challenge that has been pretty popular on social media recently. This particular challenge has inspired various groups of people to make videos of themselves… Read More Where is the Line Between Personal Preference and Body Shaming?
