— The Blog —

‘Gurl,’ “Relax, Relate, Release,” and Sing A New Song: A Moment of Self-Awareness

September 1, 2026

The quest for me to write more is underway. I was proud of myself for having multiple posts in the “hopper” ready for the “publish” button until I proofread one of them. Considering I don’t have an editor—yet—it is imperative that I review my work before publication to ensure I haven’t misspelled a word or… Read More ‘Gurl,’ “Relax, Relate, Release,” and Sing A New Song: A Moment of Self-Awareness

— The Blog —

Shut Up, Towanda—Your Name is Victory: Muzzling the Self-Destructive Internal “Caren”

July 19, 2026

In retrospect—and as “rude” as it may sound—I should have told some people I’ve encountered to shut up. Specifically, the ones who implied knowing me and why I made particular decisions or statements. And while I’m being frank, I should have expressed some expletives directed toward them and “the horse they rode in on.” I… Read More Shut Up, Towanda—Your Name is Victory: Muzzling the Self-Destructive Internal “Caren”

— The Blog —

I’m a Fraud, I Haven’t Practiced What I Preached, But Now I’ve Repented: Confessions of a So-Called Self-Love Advocate

February 3, 2026

When I decided to proclaim being a self-love promoter, I didn’t know what it truly meant. I started this blog with the mindset of focusing on the importance of showing ourselves love when others don’t accept us because of how we look or how much we weigh. I still believe we should love ourselves despite… Read More I’m a Fraud, I Haven’t Practiced What I Preached, But Now I’ve Repented: Confessions of a So-Called Self-Love Advocate

— Plus-size Community —

Should I Care That Some People (and Brands) Find My Fat Body Unattractive?

June 2, 2024

At some point recently, I read something that altered the algorithm of my newsfeed. I’ve gotten more posts related to “BBWs and the people who love them.” Frankly speaking, it is refreshing to read pieces about plus-size women that are positive. I saw comments from men who are attracted to fuller-figured women, as opposed to… Read More Should I Care That Some People (and Brands) Find My Fat Body Unattractive?

— B Magazine —

Introducing…B Magazine

September 23, 2023

Earlier this year a casual and unexpected conversation inspired the creation of a quarterly online magazine. This is another vehicle on the “Towanda’s Voice” platform designed for sharing encouragement, love, and personal stories of people who are doing amazing things. Once again, you are invited deeper into the mind of this Buxom Beauty! Check out… Read More Introducing…B Magazine

— Love & Happiness —

I’m Still Learning to Love Myself: Confessions of a Self-Love Advocate

July 27, 2023

“Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before, I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 3:13-14 KJV Have you ever had to rebuke… Read More I’m Still Learning to Love Myself: Confessions of a Self-Love Advocate

— Keys in life —

I’m Glad You’re Here, God. It’s Me, Towanda—Again.

June 11, 2023

There were two things I was looking forward to getting last week: an Ankara African dress from House of Izzi I ordered from Etsy and the digital release of the movie “Are You There God? It’s Me, Margaret.” We’ll get to the dress, but right now, I want to focus on the book and movie.… Read More I’m Glad You’re Here, God. It’s Me, Towanda—Again.

— WWBBW —

What Would B.B. Wear?: Let’s Get Intimate, Again; Curated Plus-Size Lingerie

May 6, 2023

When you visited the Diary of a Stylish Buxom Beauty website, you were greeted by a Facebook Messenger pop-up, which was added to allow more engagement and serve as a vehicle to ask questions and share ideas. Last month, a few inquiries were submitted—one of which is being highlighted in this post. Based on the… Read More What Would B.B. Wear?: Let’s Get Intimate, Again; Curated Plus-Size Lingerie

— Liberty & the Pursuit of Happiness, Plus-size Community —

News Flash: I Am An Overweight Black Woman

December 11, 2022

Although I have been overweight for the majority of my life, I haven’t experienced a lot of mistreatment or slurs to my face about it. I’ve also never felt like I couldn’t or shouldn’t take up space as a fat person. However, a recent event made me think about it. An incident occurred at work… Read More News Flash: I Am An Overweight Black Woman